The Tenants of Wise Speech

Happy Monday! Last week, as I was sharing about KM RESET Retreat in Marathon in my classes, several people mentioned they didn’t see it because it was at the bottom of my newsletter 🙂

So, first things first; dates and details are confirmed for KM RESET Retreat Marathon Key. Feb 1st-3rd 2025 at Isla Bella Resort. (same place as last year & *meals are included*) To sign up click here:

Last week I needed a reminder on how to respond using Wise Speech. Sometimes when we have people speak to us with “unwise” speech it can trigger us to respond the same way. My intention was to not fall into that trap so I reviewed the 4 parts of Wise Speech and shared them as my theme for classes last week.

The first part of Wise Speech is to speak TRUTHFULLY. The second is to speak HELPFULLY. The third is to speak FROM A KIND HEART and the fourth is to speak AT THE RIGHT TIME. When we deploy all 4 of these together we have the opportunity to speak from a place of mindfulness rather than reactiveness. The practice of Wise Speech is powerful because it carries over into our thoughts and actions as well.

The opportunity on the mat is to practice Wise Speech with ourselves. I asked my students to notice, as they moved through practice, how they were speaking in their minds and to pay attention to the stories they told themselves; many of which were likely untrue. Often we “kick ourselves when we are down” or have patterns of speech to ourselves that are not kind or helpful. We doubt our abilities, our self worth and sometimes self sabotage by psyching ourselves out at the wrong time. As we can begin to notice “unwise” speech in ourselves we can attend to it mindfully and with practice we can get better at speaking wisely to ourselves. That practice then can begin to translate into our thoughts, words and actions out in the world. What we practice we get better at and this is just one more opportunity to practice. 

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